在学习英语时，我们都见过这样一个人称代词表 | | | | | | | | |---|---|---|---|---|---|---| |人称代词|第一人称单数|第二人称单数|第三人称单数|第一人称复数|第二人称复数|第三人称复数| |主格|I|you|he/she/it|we|you|they| |宾格|me|you|him/her/it|us|you|them| |汉语|我|你|他/她/它|我们|你们|他/她/它们| |形容词性物主代词|my|your|his/her/its|our|your|their| |名词性物主代词|mine|yours|his/hers/its|ours|yours|theirs| |汉语|我的|你的|他的/她的/它的|我们的|你们的|他/她/它们的| 第三人称单数是 he / she / it 指男性，用he / him / his / his 指女性，用she / her / her / hers it作为中性代词，不能指代人 --- 当我们需要使用中性代词来指代人时，该如何表达呢 例如： Every time I see a friend at a party, I give ______ a hug. 空格处应该填什么？ 在过去，传统语法历来主张用he / him / his来指代性别不明的单数第三人称。 然而，对于现代社会来说，由于如下几个显而易见的原因这并不是一个完美的解决方案。 首先，它一开始就假定男性身份是人的默认身份。 此外，在区分说话者是在指代一个男性或泛指另外一个人时很容易混淆。 Every time I see a friend at a party, I give **him** a hug. 如果此处使用him，这句话看起来好像说话的这个人只有男性朋友。但可能这个人实际同时在指自己的男性朋友或者女性朋友，却因为代词"him"的使用导致指代不清。 --- 关于性别中性代词 一个解决方案是使用"he or she"，然而，总是说"he or she"， "his or her"或"him or her"会让人觉得你说话很烦或者写作很累赘。 另一个常见的解决方案是使用代词"they"及其所有形式，"they"是中性的，这意味着它不是指男性或者女性，而是指一个性别中性的人。英语母语的人在非正式场合使用这种方式较多。 例如上句就可以说成 Every time I see a friend at a party, I give them a hug. 这里的them是做单数使用，指某一个男性或女性。 在TS的各种谈话以及文字记录中，尤其是在**谈及她的恋爱对象以及为谁写歌**时，她常常**使用they作为第三人称单数，指代一个人，而无需指明这个人的性别**。 --- 例如： The story about **saying goodbye to someone** when you don't want to, because **you can't breathe without them**. —— from [Taylor Swift's Myspace](http://tswiftmyspace.tumblr.com/post/4323455230/and-it-all-comes-down-to-this), 2008.11.10 There are no rules when it comes to love. I just try to let love surprise me because you never know who you're going to fall in love with. You never know who's going to come into your life – and for me, when **I picture the person I want to end up with**, I don't think about **what their career is**, or **what they look like**. I picture the feeling I get when **I'm with them**. —— from [InStyle magazine](http://www.instyle.com/news/instyle-s-june-cover-girl-taylor-swift), 2011.6 The song 'I Almost Do' is a song I wrote about the conflict that you feel when **you want to take someone back**, and you want to give another try, but you know you can't. And you can't because it's hurt you so deeply, that you know you couldn't bear to go through that again. So you're sitting there, and **you're wondering where they are** and **you hope they think about you**. And you're almost picking up the phone to **call them**, but you just … but you can't. So it's an emotion that I think I needed to write the song in order to **not call that person**. Actually, I think that writing the song was what I did instead of picking up the phone. —— from [RED Track by Track](http://v.youku.com/v_show/id_XNDcwOTU5NjEy.html?from=y1.7-1.2), 2012 There's a song I wrote with Dan Wilson called 'Come Back... Be Here' which I wrote about **falling for someone** and then **they** **have to go away for work**. **They're** **traveling**, you're traveling, and **you're thinking about them**, but you're wondering how it's gonna work when there's so much distance between you. —— from [Taylor talks about the red bonus tracks](http://tswiftdaily.com/post/34242279367/taylor-talks-about-the-red-bonus-tracks), 2012 It's about kind an experience I had where if **you truly care about someone** and you know **they're** **not ready** to be in a relationship **you will let them go**, and it sucks to be the one has to let something go and **cut someone loose** when you don't want to, but I think you have to be selfless in relationships when you know that it's not the right time. And if you make that decision and **that person** **is supposed to be in your life**, **they'll** **come back**. And this was the way that I felt when that came back around. —— from < This Love > [1989 Track by Track](http://v.youku.com/v_show/id_XOTU5MzY4MTE2.html?from=y1.7-2), 2014 That was the way that I decided to go on with my life. Not looking for anything, not necessarily being open to anything, and only being open to the idea that, if **I found someone** who would never try to change me, that would be **the only person I could fall in love with**. Because, you know, I was in love with my life. —— from [Vanity Fair magazine](http://www.vanityfair.com/style/2015/08/taylor-swift-cover-mario-testino-apple-music)，2015.9 I've done a lot of thinking about heart break and what it is to **lose someone** and I think that worst part having your heart broken or **losing someone** —— you lost a friend or **someone** **you were in love with** —— if you think about what it is to fall in love. It involves a lot of bravery and vulnerability. When **you let someone in your life**, you decide your going to **trust them**, you decide you're going to **let them see** every aspect of your personality in your life…… —— from Clean [speech in Nashville 1989 world tour](CleanSpeechNashville.jpg), 2015.9.25 But I decided to write a love song just kind of like what would I say if **I met someone really awesome and they were like**, "Hey, I worried about like all these attention you get." So I wrote this song called "I Know Places" about like "Hey, I know places we could hide. We could just, we could outrun them." —— from [Listening Session With Taylor Swift 1989 Grammy Pro](http://v.youku.com/v_show/id_XMTM1OTM4MDU0NA==.html), 2015.10 --- 使用中性人称代词指代一个人，而无须指明这人的性别，除了**they**以外，她还常常使用**someone**、**somebody**、**the one**、 (that / certain / the / some) **people**、(that / certain / the / some) **person**…… 更多的例子可以看[这个视频 —— Taylor Swift Gayest Moments](http://v.youku.com/v_show/id_XMTU3Nzc2NzU0OA==.html)。 --- TS当然也用过he / him / his，但是据观察她使用中性代词的场合更多。 中性第三人称代词的意义在于，不特指某一性别，可以指一个男性也可以指一个女性。 如果TS是个只喜欢男人，只有男朋友，只给男朋友写歌的宇直，她完全应该本能的自觉的在上述所有场合——谈论她过去喜欢的人、正在fall in love的人、未来和她在一起的人、她写歌的人时——都使用he / him / his。